The formula you've been looking for
Looking for that magic formula to bring back the spark in your relationship? Here are the top 5 ideas you can use to create the perfect strategy.
We all know that feeling – you fall in love, hoping for eternal bliss. But down the line, you slowly but surely start to discover that your love is waning.
It is not your fault. It is a regular occurrence. The majority of couples experience this diminishing passion as the novelty of the relationship wears off, the couple falls into a routine, and end up losing some amount of interest in one another.
Once you realize the cause(s) of such a situation that you find yourself in, then your best bet is a lasting solution. Not a one-off tactic, but rather a long-term strategy to keep your relationship fires burning for long.
The following are the top 5 ideas you can use to strategize and get what you want. You are free to apply them as you see fit.
Top Ideas To Spice Up Your Love Life
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Bond Anew |
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Give Some Space |
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Surprise Gifts |
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Role Play |
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Break Out Together |
1.Bond Anew
Human existence is a constant evolutionary process. What this simply means is that the person you fell in love with ages ago, has changed. To some extent, at least.
This also means that most of your moves won't work like before. Your partner has outgrown many desires and gotten bored of a million things, but you still don't seem to take notice. If this goes on, then your relationship will continue to deteriorate.
The simple solution here is a new bonding phase. You have to relearn your partner, understand his or her new desires, the things that matter now, the new hobbies, and so on. In simple terms: ask questions, listen, and observe. Spend a day or two to experience the new hobby, if you must.
With your new understanding of your partner, you will rediscover a new plan for more effective seduction. One that will rekindle all the right emotions. Especially those you have come to miss over the years.
- Give Some Space
Nature is filled with ups and downs, yin and yang, plus and minus, you get the drift. Force creates a reaction and it will always be that way.
When you stay together with someone for some time, then these natural forces also come into play. But this increased need for some alone time is often met with the fear of losing your partner, just by giving some space.
Being clingy can be off-putting for some and not getting enough alone time can feel 'suffocating for others. But when you give some space, you always come back stronger.
How much space or how long away depends on you. Start small, visit friends, develop a solo hobby, focus on yourself, take up a challenge, go on a vacation alone, and so on. Important is that you stay in touch and don't drift too far apart.
- Surprise Gifts
“If you go out looking for friends, you are going to find they are very scarce. If you go out to be a friend, you will find them everywhere.”
~Zig Ziglar
Everyone has a weakness for gifts. Research has shown that giving a gift not only makes the recipient happier, it also gives that feeling of being cared for. Plus, it brings benefits to you, the giver, as well.
Often we hope for all the good things we wish to receive from others – gifts, friendship, romance. However, most people just expect these things. But hardly give.
Although price can be important when it comes to good gifts, the thoughtfulness of a gift is often more important in making your significant other feel loved and appreciated.
Of course, whatever gift you choose is up to you. But if you are feeling lazy, then you can always try out our Panty of the Month® subscription service.
- Role Play
Routine is one of the major causes of rot in romantic relationships. You keep doing the same things over and over. From your favorite sex positions to expressions, words, and the rest of your personality.
Doing the same thing over and again makes you boring. And that is a huge romance killer.
Why not take up a new personality? It will surely thrill your partner and you can build on it over time. Maybe you have a favorite movie star, hero, romantic ideal, or dream personality?
This new personality will also bring the thrill of starting a new affair. But then, you are doing it with your one and only.
- Break Out Together
Knowing that routine is one of the major causes of decay in your romantic relationship and that new shared experiences have been shown to revive relationships, how about you occasionally break out together?
The goal here is to try something new together every once in a while. It should be a new and shared experience. So to help revive that feeling of camaraderie, adventure, trust, and good old fun.
Feel free to make mistakes here. The activity itself does not matter, neither is your proficiency at it. Learn something new together and have fun while doing it.
Conclusion
Reaching the end of this list of the top 5 ideas to help spice up your relationship, you have seen that a reduced romantic temperature is natural and happens all the time.
How you approach the situation, however, will determine which direction your relationship will take from here. Use these ideas, develop a strategy from them, and you should re-create that magic you seek.