From Lust to Love

Navigating the Different Stages of a Relationship

Navigating the different stages of your relationship can be a challenging journey. Read on to discover how you can transition from lust to love and build a more solid partnership.

Love is a complex journey that evolves with time.

Every relationship has its ups and downs, but most people fail to realize that those changes are part of a larger pattern of evolution that's natural in every partnership.

Physical looks play a larger role at the beginning of every romantic relationship–call it lust. But as the relationship progresses, inner qualities become as equally important–love.

Being able to manage and navigate your relationship through this transition is a skill that many couples lack, with countless attempts at love leading to broken hearts and dreams.

This blog explains this relationship evolution pattern and includes helpful tips and insights to enable you weather the storms in your romantic journey. Thus, you can emerge on the sunny side of a beautiful love story. 

From Lust To Love 

Lust vs Love

Contrary to popular belief, relationships do not simply mature into stable, happy partnerships and remain that way forever. No, there will always be obstacles to overcome and these will range from simple stuff to bigger fights now and then.

 The difference, however, lies in what these hurdles mean to you and your partner. In the beginning, the stakes are mostly physical. But with time, you invest emotional equity in the relationship based on mutual admiration, trust, and respect. This changes the dynamics of your ups and downs and is the beginning of what many call true love.

Shifting your relationship from lust to love is about values and setting priorities. In shorter relationships, a partner can easily be replaced with a similar-looking person. But with longer relationships, it becomes more difficult to replace that partner.

 The reason is that looks and sexual urges play less significant roles in more mature relationships. While a deeper emotional connection, understanding and respect for each other, plus an appreciation of a lover's unique traits dominate. 

The Stages of A Relationship 

Depending on who you ask, there could be anywhere from 4 to 10 stages in a relationship. This post is not about exact counts, however, rather it provides you with a rough guide of what to expect and when. 

The following are the stages that an average relationship will go through one or more times. 

1. Infatuation: This is the physical attraction or honeymoon phase. Of course, you also consider other features, such as education and inner qualities at this stage, but physical attraction usually overshadows the rest and each partner tends to see only the best in the other.
2. Disillusion: Reality bites the couple in this stage and they begin to see each other for who they are–the flaws, the imperfections, the shortcomings, the snoring in bed, and those other no-so-pleasant attitudes. These negative traits multiply over time and drag the relationship into a crisis. The timeline varies but averages out to around 5-7 years.
3. Finding Balance: In this stage, the partners try to remedy the situation and work things out. They may re-negotiate, make new arrangements, visit a therapist, etc, to try and bring stability back into their lives.
4. Commitment: This is the stage of spiritual bonding and whole-hearted love. Each partner is sure of the other's imperfection but decides to go ahead anyway and face the future together. Again, the timeline varies but is usually 7-10 years, and beyond. 

Tips To Evolve From Lust to Love 

No two relationships are the same, because we are all different and create unique bonds all the time. However, the dynamics in most romantic interactions are practically similar. So, here are some tips to help you navigate each stage that you may currently find your relationship in. 

Stage 1: Infatuation 

• Enjoy the moment and have fun.
• Find out the much you can about each other.
• Be your authentic self and communicate your honest expectations.
• Take things easy and don't rush.
• Set boundaries if you have to and make sure you are both on the same page.
• Investigate any red flags immediately. 
  
  

Stage 2: Disillusion 

• Be patient and understanding if things get ugly.
• Don't avoid conflicts, rather discuss every misunderstanding like adults.
• Avoid making assumptions or jumping to conclusions about your partner's behaviors.
• Be willing to lower or adjust your expectations of your partner and the relationship.
• Do not try to tear down or ruin your partner whenever you have a crisis.

Stage 3: Finding Balance 

“To lose balance sometimes for love is part of living a balanced life.”

~Elizabeth Gilbert (Eat, Pray, Love.)

• Continue to communicate openly about your challenges.
• Take time to deeply understand each other's needs and expectations.
• Be willing to forgive.
• Be willing to make compromises and even give up part of your old life.
• Be willing to face your challenges together as a team.
• Be willing to prove your trustworthiness as reliable partners to each other.

Stage 4: Commitment 

• Keep prioritizing your relationship and making time for each other.
• Keep the romantic flames alive with new adventures and shared experiences.
• Don't be afraid to be vulnerable and share your deepest secrets or weaknesses.
• Constantly show your appreciation and physical affection for each other.
• Be grateful for the love you share. 
  
  

Conclusion 

Rounding up this guide on successfully navigating the different stages of a relationship from lust to love, you will agree that falling in love is easier than staying in love. 

Notwithstanding, love is a great gift that none has ever regretted. So, all the work toward your love life will certainly be worth it. And remember that the most successful couples are usually open to change and willing to navigate the ups and downs of their relationships together.