Jake and Melissa have been married for 15 years and counting. So have John and Addy. The only difference between both couples is that the latter have 3 kids, whereas the former have a cat and a teacup pig. Even so, both couples suffer from the same problem: monotony in their marriage and sex life.
All four boast successful careers and a comfortable lifestyle. Besides the conventional mortgages, they don’t have any financial troubles, and even have cash stashed aside for a rainy day. Perhaps it’s because they’re so responsible that their lives have settled into a comfortable yet somehow dull routine. This doesn’t mean they’re unhappy. Far from it, all four are reportedly happy with their partners.
Even so, all four have voiced their concerns on conforming too much to routine. Their lives may be great, they may love their partners, but they’re tired of their sex lives. Don’t blame marriage, because even long-term unmarried couples suffer from this problem. It’s very normal for our carnal instincts to die down, and before you know it, convenience takes its place.
Why does this happen? According to an article posted on Huffington Post, “It’s human nature to crave novelty, as great thinkers as far back as Pliney the Elder have noted — it’s what makes new couples want to rip the buttons off each others’ shirts and engage in lingerie-sparked romps until the wee hours of the morning. But eventually, having access to the same naked body night after night is bound to erode its novelty.”
If that’s the case, then there’s no excuse why you need to be in that position. There are plenty of naughty things that you can do to spice up married life and make it seem like you’re a brand new couple again.
How to bring sexy back into your marriage
No idea where to start? Here are a couple of naughty ideas you can try to spice up your romps.
#1 Forget the sex routine. One way to spice things up is to forget the sex schedule. Rip that thing up and flush it down the toilet, never to be seen again. Most couples fall into a boring routine of doing it at specific times. For example, John and Addy tend to only have sex over the weekends, as it’s the only time when they’re not exhausted from work and the kids. Jake and Melissa, on the other hand, make a habit of making love in the mornings on “non-gym days.”
As practical as it is to have a sex schedule, there’s no doubt that it’s a horrible way of addressing one of the most basic and primal instincts that we have. Spice it up by doing it whenever you feel like it, not whenever your schedule permits it.
#2 Enjoy quickies. As a continuation of the point I made above, indulge in quickies any chance you can get. This way you won’t have to worry so much about sticking to a schedule or making sure you’re not late to work. Whether you bang your wife in the garage before zooming off to work, or springing your husband with a quick session up against the kitchen sink, relish quickies as they are god’s gift to the busy.
#3 Use props. Introduce props into the bedroom the next chance you get. You’ll be surprised at just how handy a pair of furry handcuffs can be. A silk blindfold? What about a feathery whip? Flavored lube, perhaps? If you’re embarrassed to head to a sex shop, buy whatever you need online. Same day delivery, anyone? You can also make use of what’s in your kitchen. Ice, honey and whipped cream are great sex tools, and if you’re a chocolate-lover, bust out that jar of Nutella for a rocking good time.
#4 Watch porn together. Everyone watches porn, so don’t be a prude and turn your nose up at it. Make it a point to watch some porn with your partner. Not only will it be sure to turn both of you on, you’ll also garner tips and ideas from these saucy videos. Not just that, you’ll have an idea of just how your partner likes it.
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Pay attention to the types of videos they select. Do they like tags that say, “public,” “orgy,” “anal,” “redhead,” “schoolgirl” or “lesbian?” There are hundreds of keywords and tags when it comes to porn, so pay attention to what your partner likes, and try to replicate it the next chance you get.
#5 Have sex at work. There’s nothing naughtier than getting kinky at one of the dullest places on earth: the office. Ladies, why not surprise your husband during lunch? Pop in with his favorite takeout and barricade yourselves in his office.
Dress normally, but be sure to put on something completely provocative underneath. Nipple pasties, sexy lingerie, crotchless panties, and other naughty pieces of clothing come to mind. Boys, do the same with your ladies, but spice it up by wearing nothing underneath those pants. Just hang loose, won’t you?