If you want to know how to spice up your marriage, it doesn’t always involve sex acts. Try these different modes of reconnecting to turn on the heat!
Is there anything worse than hitting the bed and rolling over another night… alone? Marriage is not an easy relationship to maintain. When growing up, most of us had the impression that we would fall in love, Prince Charming would swoop us off our feet, and we would live happily and sexually fulfilled for eternity.
Unfortunately, other things in life get in the way. The good news is that no matter how far things have gotten, you can still learn how to spice up your marriage.
For guys, the same is true. One day they wake up wondering where that vixen who couldn’t get enough went. In her place is a woman who is seemingly never happy, overly critical, and wears a “hands off” sign constantly. Sometimes what we need, and the messages we send, don’t coincide.
There is an old saying about what goes on in the bedroom goes on in the marriage, and although being married is about the day-to-day partnership and commitment that two people make, if there is no intimacy, it could be leaving you both feeling disconnected and detached.
Making the first move, even in marriage, is often difficult. No one wants to be rejected. Sometimes, to get something, you have to give something.
There are many features that you will read about spicing things up in the bedroom with the focus on how to “turn your mate on” using sex.
But I am going to go out on a limb and suggest that your lack of sexual contact may have something less to do with your sexual attraction *or needs* and more about the other parts of your relationship that aren’t being fulfilled.
Here is how to spice up your marriage
If you want to know how to spice up your marriage, things like porn, little nighties, and experimentation are probably going to work. But, to keep it spicy, you have to find that deep desire to connect, be kind, and love one another.
These are 9 ways to spice up your marriage that may not be what you expected to read. But, I promise if you give them a try, you will find yourself being sexually satisfied night after night as a result.
#1 Think about the way that you are talking to them. If you are beginning to sound more like their boss, or worse yet, their mother, that is not something that turns the heat off in a marriage. It is difficult to have sexy feelings for someone who you feel mistreats you with their words, is overly critical, or just downright degrades you.
If you want to turn your mate on, start by changing the way that you speak to them. Sure, sex talk is something that will get their engines revving, but complimenting them on a job well done or speaking to them like you admire them, will give them the confidence to bridge the growing divide that may be happening in your bed.